There are few periods of our lives that are so critical and remarkably important relative to every other aspect. These moments not only decide how every other parts of our lives will be, it pretty constructs and locks down the entire course of our existence.
Among such moments are the moments of childhood. Childhood is beautiful, amazing, and every single one of us look back at it with an inevitable naivete and nostalgia. But – it is also a very critical stage in our lives, and as such, some of us look back at it with deep regrets. And among some of the things we regret the most about it, is that it was the source of our loss of self confidence.
Self-Confidence Booster, Irredeemable?
Some say that once you lose you self-confidence it is impossible to get it back. While this may be true to an extent it is also quite debatable. One thing, however, that is certain and undoubtable, is that self-confidence is a skill that is best acquired at a young age.
Confidence Booster for Kids, Five Tips
1. Praise, Praise, Praise
This actually does seem like a no-brainer at first. I mean these are our kids and we know how impressionable they are, so it should be a natural thing that we try our best to compliment them as much as possible. But you’ll be surprised just how many parents neglect to do this, and not just out of indifference but because in actuality life tends to throw so many things at us that we forget to do the simpler things – one of which is telling our kids they’ve done a good job. Choosing to praise them for the little tasks, you’ll find, is amazingly effective at preparing then for the other tougher tasks of life.
2. Taking a Step Back
Kids need guidance. There is absolutely no doubt about that, but being overbearing is absolutely not the same as guidance. Sometimes as parents you need to take a step back and let your kid do things for him or herself – and by so doing acquire the confidence requored to go out there at life, alone when the time comes – and make no mistake, the time WILL come.
Life is a pool of negatives and positives. This is quite literally the building block of Life. Positives will interact with negatives. Bad times will interact with the good times. The highs will interact with the lows. There is no avoiding this.
The best you can do for your child, however, and their self-confidence, is to always choose to focus more on the positive. To also teach them that even though the negatives may come and seem insurmountable; even though the time comes that they stumble and fall, getting up is the most important thing in the end. You not only have to help them get up, you also have to teach them to focus on the fact of getting up – instead of the fact of falling down.
Love, Love, Love
Be it in adulthood or childhood, the one thing we all need in life is love. Love is so important particularly because it help reinforces us in every single aspect of our lives. No less in the area of self confidence. Once you love your kids and show that love, with encouragement and positivity and the fact of being there for them and they knowing that there is someone who has their back – the sky is really the beginning.
All the above will never be complete or effective without the proper required moderation. Never do anything to the extreme. Too much pampering is spoiling. To much praise won’t let them focus on what it takes to get better. There will always be extremes in life, and most of the time true wisdom comes from the way we manage those extremes. This ks the way to truly grow.